Comments on: Reconnecting with your contacts: ‘turns’ don’t matter http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/ Growing your career through the social web Wed, 19 Nov 2008 23:26:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Jon Hoel http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/#comment-20 Jon Hoel Sun, 29 Jul 2007 10:51:04 +0000 http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/#comment-20 Bryan - excellent point. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt with things like this. There have been numerous examples over the years where persistence has paid off. Bryan - excellent point.

I try to give people the benefit of the doubt with things like this. There have been numerous examples over the years where persistence has paid off.

]]> By: Laura Athavale Fitton http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/#comment-19 Laura Athavale Fitton Thu, 26 Jul 2007 15:58:37 +0000 http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/#comment-19 I think you're totally right Bryan, and I think this is an important lifelong practice. I also think there are many many shades of ways to keep old doors and passageways open, many of which do not require "turn-taking." I have contacts from years ago that I rarely think about and then one day I see something that reminds me of them and forward it. It doesn't have to be any big deal or any forced reunion and reconnection. Just a friendly "you're worth remembering" gesture. I think you’re totally right Bryan, and I think this is an important lifelong practice. I also think there are many many shades of ways to keep old doors and passageways open, many of which do not require “turn-taking.” I have contacts from years ago that I rarely think about and then one day I see something that reminds me of them and forward it. It doesn’t have to be any big deal or any forced reunion and reconnection. Just a friendly “you’re worth remembering” gesture.

]]> By: Bryan http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/#comment-14 Bryan Mon, 23 Jul 2007 20:45:51 +0000 http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/#comment-14 Well, Rebecca, I might have added this qualifier: Taking turns doesn't matter, provided the relationship is worth reviving/keeping in the first place. In the example you give above, it doesn't sound like continuing to try and make things with that guy is worth your friend's time. Thanks for your comment. Well, Rebecca, I might have added this qualifier: Taking turns doesn’t matter, provided the relationship is worth reviving/keeping in the first place. In the example you give above, it doesn’t sound like continuing to try and make things with that guy is worth your friend’s time.

Thanks for your comment.

]]> By: Rebecca Thorman http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/#comment-13 Rebecca Thorman Mon, 23 Jul 2007 19:22:15 +0000 http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/#comment-13 Hm, I've always thought turns do matter a bit! My friend just got blown off for the third time on Friday and we agreed the guy probably just doesn't like him. I, too, constantly feel as if I'm trying harder to keep in touch with some people than they do. In this case, I wonder if the return is worth all that investment. Hm, I’ve always thought turns do matter a bit! My friend just got blown off for the third time on Friday and we agreed the guy probably just doesn’t like him. I, too, constantly feel as if I’m trying harder to keep in touch with some people than they do. In this case, I wonder if the return is worth all that investment.

]]> By: Bryan http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/#comment-12 Bryan Mon, 23 Jul 2007 16:51:29 +0000 http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/#comment-12 Thanks for the comment, Alexandra. I know that's it natural to get a bit resentful when we feel we're holding up *our* end of the bargain, and the other person isn't. But for relationships that are important, we have to get over that hurdle. And getting in touch with someone we haven't spoken to in ages is one way to do that. Thanks for the comment, Alexandra. I know that’s it natural to get a bit resentful when we feel we’re holding up *our* end of the bargain, and the other person isn’t. But for relationships that are important, we have to get over that hurdle.

And getting in touch with someone we haven’t spoken to in ages is one way to do that.

]]> By: Alexandra Levit http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/#comment-11 Alexandra Levit Mon, 23 Jul 2007 16:36:28 +0000 http://www.connectedworker.com/2007/07/23/reconnecting-with-your-contacts/#comment-11 Hi Bryan, GREAT point about the turns. I myself am trying to get a little better about approaching relationships from a "tit for tat" perspective. Thanks for pointing this out for everyone's benefit. I think it's very important. Hi Bryan, GREAT point about the turns. I myself am trying to get a little better about approaching relationships from a “tit for tat” perspective. Thanks for pointing this out for everyone’s benefit. I think it’s very important.

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